Complaint Free World

What a great, actionable book! I just finished A Complaint Free World: The 21-day challenge that will change your life by Will Bowen.

This book challenges its readers to stop verbalizing complaints for 21 days in a row. A complaint becomes a complaint from the feelings behind it. Thus, we need to become aware of what we say, and the energy behind was is said.

Complaining == Bragging

Our Words and Thoughts Matter.

Our thoughts indicate our world and our words indicate our thoughts

When we control our words by eradicating complaining, we create our lives with intention and attract what we desire

Pain

"Those who hurt [others] are hurting [themselves]"

If you say ouch, you will feel pain. Are you an ouch waiting for the hurt?

NOTHING Valuable as ever easy:

Simple Yes, Easy No

Thanks to the Dunning-Kruger Effect (when low-ability people do not possess the skills needed to recognize their own incompetence), we are willing to take on difficult tasks because we do not know how hard they really are. If you know how hard it will be then, you wouldn't start in the first place... but we do because we think it's easier than it is!

Like Attracts Like

We tend to be around people who are like us and repel people who are unlike us: If you're around a whole bunch of people who complain and you might be a complainer

Misery loves company; It derives validation from it - When we complain we repel the things that we actually want

Is a complaining competition something you want to win?

Gossip

"If you can't say anything nice don't say anything at all" -Mom

Gossip is only okay if:

what you're saying about the absent person is complimentary
You would repeat what you're saying to the absent person worked for word if they were present

What you complain about in others it's probably also true in you...so look at yourself

Victor or Victim

Complaining places you in a Victim mentality - Victims don't become Victors

You get to choose what you will be - a Victim or a Victor

Complaining is focusing on what we do not want to occur

Our focus needs to be on what we WANT to occur not on what we DO NOT want to occur

What you Articulate you Demonstrate

"You have a choice with the words you choose where do you use to create the life you live choose carefully"

Listen carefully to the words you use
Check yourself for criticism - Know that you are perpetuating which criticize
Who you are creates an impact in your World

How to stop Complaining:

Awareness: Recognize when you're complaining.
Reframe: Try to view the situation from a different perspective.
Focus on solutions: Instead of complaining, think about what can be done to improve the situation.
Practice gratitude: Regularly acknowledging what you're thankful for can help shift your mindset.

Remember, change takes time: Be patient.

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